I started this post at the end of December... and here I am finishing it five months later. It's oddly good timing though, as I've recently been doing a lot of reflecting and goal setting for summer. LET'S DO THIS, shall we?
2017 was a doozy in many regards, but for me personally, it was a good year! I haven't documented much of my life on here lately, so I thought I'd share some of my reflections on the past twelve months and what I'm aiming to do in the months ahead.
I invested in my marriage
We celebrated nine years of marriage this past May. I can't tell you how many times I've had the thought "it's been X amount of years, how do we not have this figured out already?" But now I think, "we've been through a lot of heartache and change together in nine years — we're doing pretty great!"
(UPDATE: just had our 10th anniversary! What in the what?)
I worked on letting little irritations go instead of voicing them or holding on to resentment. I made a point to brag on Andy to my family and friends and chose to follow any negative thoughts in my head with at least one positive thought or memory. I also prayed for Andy in very specific ways.
Andy has served me by sharing in child care and house work and supporting my social life. He asks me for my opinion and advice and doesn't make decisions without talking them through with me first. He tells me often that I'm a great mom. *Swoon.*
I took care of my body (ish)
I took 40 barre classes over the summer, many of which required me to wake up at 5:20 in the morning. I have never stuck with an exercise class that long. I saw a huge improvement in my strength and physical confidence!
I began taking a daily multivitamin and finally purchased an under-eye repair cream and a wrinkle repair cream for my forehead. I also drank a TON of water each day and cut back to drinking only one cup of coffee most days.
I spent quality time with my girl
I refuse to feel guilty for working part-time, going out with friends, or even spending a night or two away from my daughter. I want to be an example of a woman who has an identity outside of motherhood — someone who gives energy to both her child(ren) and her interests.
I make it a goal to have quality time with Chloe every day, which is usually in the form of a walk. Our neighbor has commented that he admires how we walk even if it's raining or snowing. Sometimes our quality time looks like me setting my phone, book, or to-do list aside and playing play-doh, reading a stack of books, or having a long snuggle on the bed with tickle fights and nursery rhyme singalongs. Little moments of connection matter greatly, but a good 30-60 minutes of TRUE one-on-one time without distractions is good for the soul.
I want to write for myself again
It has been a long time since I blogged regularly. I need to stop thinking about how no one really cares about what I have to say and start thinking that 1) some people actually do care and 2) I should write for myself, not for others. Writing is a great outlet and something that brings me pleasure.
(Also, I really want to start a podcast. EEK!)
I want to memorize scripture
I recently bought a small stack of scripture cards that I plan to display one at a time and memorize. I also bought a few for Chloe and look forward to learning the verses with her. I lose my patience more often than I'd like, and when I do the enemy attacks and tell me to give up and that I'm a horrible mama. I want to be prepared to respond with truth! (Ephesians 6:10-18 is top on my list.)
I want to take care of my body
Like a lot of people, I tend to exercise most and eat more healthful foods during warm weather months. I don't have a set plan yet for how I'm going to accomplish my weight loss/healthy eating goals, but stay tuned because I'll (hopefully) share that soon! In the past three weeks I've had two health issues and my period, so eating well and exercising has hardly happened. I follow Amanda Wilson on Instagram and have been really inspired by her approach to healthy eating. She says to enjoy eating out or special occasions with family and friends, but to not use those experiences to purposefully over-indulge (instead, enjoy it but stop eating when you're full). Also, don't use that meal as an excuse to make unhealthy choices all day long — which is something I am soooo guilty of! I could be doing a much better job of taking care of my inward and outward body. I want to be strong, full of nutrients (and burgers and chocolate, too), and be energetic.
My word for 2018 is "capable." I have LOVED this word and have really embraced it at work, but I could do better about embracing it at home. I am capable of writing! I am capable of memorizing scripture! I am capable of exercising and eating my vegetables! :)
What are some of your goals for this year? I'd love to know!