I had a blog post on hiring a decorator all set to go for today, but as I drove home from an event last night I felt a tug on my heart to write about something different.
Some of my readers know that I kept a personal blog before launching Laura Rennie Interiors. I wrote about my faith and my grief over my two stillborn babies, and I also wrote about simple (but fun!) things like recipes and makeup products and books. I was torn on what to do with my “old” blog once I launched LRI. I knew I couldn’t keep up with two websites, but I also knew that writing about my faith and my story was impacting not only my own heart but the hearts of other women as well. Honestly, the thought of going deep on my professional blog freaked me out. I didn’t want to be taken less seriously. I didn’t want to make new clients feel uncomfortable.
I talked about my hesitations and insecurities with a few friends and they all said the same thing: be you. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that several of the female decorators, designers and stylists I follow have shared about miscarriages or frightening birth experiences ON THEIR WEBSITE. I had that “oh, duh” feeling when a friend asked me the question, “Don’t you find a person more attractive and appealing when they’re real?” (Yes. Yes, I do.)
Choosing to start this business with the attitude of I’m going to be me, no matter what has been incredibly freeing. I’m not bound to an Instagram color scheme or to promises of weekly blog posts. I have goals for this business, but none of them contain a number of followers to hit or a website to be featured in.
Before my launch I read the book “Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Life of Well-Being, Wisdom, and Wonder” by Arianna Huffington. (I highly recommend it.) She says, “In the new definition of success, building and looking after our financial capital is not enough. We need to do everything we can to protect and nurture our human capital.”
BOOM. Mic drop.
Last night I attended a special dinner for the local chapter of Pursuit Community. We shared a meal together around beautifully styled tables and laughed in between sips of cider and bites of cinnamon rolls. It was incredibly “Instagram-worthy."
Yet the magic of the night wasn’t found in the beauty of the set-up — it was found in holding hands to pray together and sharing our hearts with one another. I told the group about my initial struggle to go deep on my website and through social media, and as I spoke I saw heads start to nod in agreement. One by one the other women shared their desire to be real but their fear of turning clients away if what they say or post is messy or awkward. It was a special time of claiming Truth and encouraging each other to invest the gifts we’ve been given, rather than hide them because we’re scared.
We all need to hear that our messy lives matter. We all need to be reminded of what’s truly important in this life.
“And every day, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling, “This is important! And this is important! And this is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And this!” And each day, it’s up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say, “No. This is what’s important.” - author Iain Thomas
You’ll notice each blog post I write is under a certain category, such as “my home” and “room makeover.” I’ll pop in here and there to share little things from my week, such as what I’m reading or making or listening to. I might write about my grief, which could be awkward for you, but maybe it will be just what you needed to hear to encourage you in your own life, or in your friend’s life. These posts will be under the “around here” category. (Such an eloquent name, right? Haha.)
What are you up to on this rainy Friday? I’m excited to wrap up work tasks and dive into a novel for a bit before braving the weather to get ingredients for dinner. We’re going to see “The Martian” next week — have you read the book?